Yep. That would be a Kathy Krueger thing. I would do that. Just did this last week, as a matter o’ fact.
Why beat around the bush? If there is someone new in your circle, or you’ve found yourself in a new circle of people, why try and figure out who they are by casual observance? Why spend months of occasional chit chat before you sit down and have a one-on-one — This is me. Who are you? — conversation?
I know. That’s just not how’s it done, especially in Minnesota. We do nice pleasantries and only gather in groups of three or more, just to keep the conversation at a nice comfortable level. Nothing too personal or too deep, ‘until we get to know each other better.’
Huh? How will we get to know each other better if we avoid going beyond the surface? Doesn’t make sense to me.
Of course, I’ve met people that I’ve chosen not share my inner thoughts and feelings with. Usually, it was because they were busy sharing their thoughts and feelings about other people with me in a less than positive manner. Or else, they became uncomfortable when the conversation seemed to dip below the shallow line into deeper waters. I can respect that. You need to feel safe with a person before making yourself vulnerable with them.
But isn’t it wonderful when you meet someone and right from the start you can both talk about who you are and what you’re all about? I think it is the greatest fun!!
‘You’re like that? So am I!” “You’re like that? So very opposite of me!”
It doesn’t really matter, if you’re both comfortable with who you are to begin with. Discovering the uniqueness of another person and what their passions are is just a wonderful part of relationship.
Love yourself. Love others.
Hmmm. Maybe someone should make that a law or commandment or something. What do you think?
Nah!! Who needs a commandment to tell us to do that?!
(And there ends my ‘loving’ post for the week.)